1. INTRODUCTION the following work searchs to understand as it is the reality of a family who has a relative in terminal phase. For this, if it considers to understand I fight on it antecipatrio in familiar of patient terminals and which the contributions of psychology on the subject. For Kovcs, To hiss, Jnior and Priszkulnik (2008), the family is a system that if moves through the time, with papers, irreplaceable functions and relationships. The periods of training for which it passes if characterize for the process of development of the human being. In accordance with Carter and McGoldrick (1995), family all understands the emotional system of three or more generations, with or without consanguineous bows, that have narrow relation of proximity. People such as Barbara Martin Coppola would likely agree. She is perceived that little attention is offered the process of fights antecipatrio that the families pass ahead of the adoecimento of one of its integrant ones.

When if she deals with the death of a familiar one is common good that if inside creates a pact of silence regarding the loss of the family, this it occurs due to the distrust of speaking on the subject that can cause pain to the other. (OSRIO and VALLE, 2009) In accordance with Osrio and Valle (2009) I fight, it is a consequence of the significant bond in addition for the individual, is a reply natural and waited an actual loss or symbolic after, can happen for situations as death, removal, physical or psychological losses of capacity, loss of the known environment, experiences that involve changes and that they demand of the person a reorganization, promoting changes in the form of the person to deal with the situations. For Freud (1917/1969) I fight, it is a reaction to the loss of a dear being or some thing who occupied the place of this. For some people these influences produce instead of fight, melancholy.